We are in a modern world where unfortunately we are told that because we were born either male or female, we should take it as our obligation to remain that person. Such is the separation that different genders have to contend with loving certain things because they are either meant for women or are meant for men. Additionally, we even have to wear certain colors because we are not a certain gender. However, these assumptions are myths and are clearly that. According to the studies, myths that people are taught at very young age are universal truths and which are often applied to each other whether we realize it or not. Although some gender myths are good the way they are, some are as frustrating as they come.
According to the society in which we live, it is known that females should not be sporty. Although it is not written, it is a known and accepted idea that sports should be left to the male counterparts. I was born and grew up a girl. I also went to a girls’ school. However, while I was still schooling, I wished I was a boy. I went to study in a school where there was a strong believe that art, singing, and writing were the things of the girl child. Although we were encouraged to embrace these girlish subjects and activities, I was mad at sports. However, it was a little different at home where I climbed trees and made some obstacle courses together with my brother. I was also keen to learn how to mix cement and fix some things in the house though my father was reluctant.
My mother was a language teacher in neighboring boy’s school. Fortunately, I had full access to both sides of the male and female worlds at different times of the day. I would spend all the day on the girls’ side because I would not have gone to the boys’ school due to some known reasons. However, I would spend the evenings with the boys playing different types of sports specifically soccer. However, I was the only female in the field during soccer games something which did not go down well with the members of the school soccer team. They look down on me because being a girl it was strange for me to be in the field with the rest of the boys’ soccer team. I just realized how much there was gender categorization. As the days went by, we became several girls getting engaged in sports and showing a lot of interest. The school gave the huge sports field, basketball court, and the hall to the boys. On our side, we got nothing else but tarmac. But they left the stages for art performance to our disposal. From when I was a young girl, I could not understand why it was so difficult for female sports fans to cross the imaginary fence and play freely in the sports field together with the boys. Instead of acting and singing, I longed for kicking a soccer ball (Levit, 1998).
At home, these boundaries did not blur. My love and urge for sports did not go away as my parents would have wanted. My father would take my brother out to the local matches while leaving me at home and probably thinking that my love for sports would die simply because I was a girl. He also insisted that sports were particularly for boys, and it was not accepted in the society for girls to like sports to the point of fanaticism. Additionally, according to my father, he did not feel safe and secure when I would get a chance to attend a soccer match and get surrounded by male fans because as has been accepted by the society, sports ground is no go zones for females. Growing up in this environment has affected my love for sports and how I interact with the opposite gender. They seem a different species to my equal sports-loving friends and me. It has significantly changed my life and how I view sports as a career. I have now realized and understood comprehensively that the problem was not at the school or home. Gender frustration is widespread in the society and involves many other things besides a love for sports for a girl child.
Gender frustration is a societal problem as has been shown by the paper. The society has set many other stereotypes besides what the paper has discussed. However, it should be understood that the stereotypes are not only related to girls but also to boys who find it hard to engage in activities which the society has made it for girls only. Such frustrations and stereotyping only serve to deny both male and females equal chances in a field dominated by the other. What should there be done? People should understand that they are physical barriers which they can easily move.
Levit, N. (1998). The gender line: Men, women, and the law. New York: New York University Press.